Girls, let's talk about boys

What this is not:

This is not an engagement post.

This is not a marriage post.

This is not even a "I'm dating this fantastic guy and here's what I learned' post.

No, this is a 'I'm single, slightly content with that and still very much a hopeless romantic" post. Does that make sense? Ehh whatever...

Let me just establish: I know that I will be getting married someday. I know that it's going to happen.

Now while I am still stupendously single I get the joyous task of figuring out what kind of guy I want to marry.



I wanted to find a clip but this works too haha.

Girls, your mother is slightly shallow when it comes to guys. Just slightly.

I want to be attracted to your father from the beginning and believe you me, Grandma's gotten after me for that. This scenario is just not appealing to me:

Barbie meets Ken--eh he's okay--she's not really attracted to him but they become friends whether through study group, ward callings or they have something in common--over time she realizes he "has a great personality" and he becomes more attractive--they start dating, fall in love and get married.

That scenario works for some people and there is nothing wrong with that. It's just not for me. Here's the scenario that I'd like:

Elizabeth Bennet enters the dance hall--overhears Mr. Darcy insulting her--vows to hate him always--gets thrown in social settings with him A LOT--they get used to each other--fall in love, get married.

Actually no. Mr. Darcy is great, fabulous even, but I would never be able to pull off the type of romantic adventure that he and Lizzy have. It would take too much energy and possibly cause ulcers. And let's be honest, Lizzy is way classier and wittier than I will ever be.

What I'd really like (as tempted as I am to quote other chick flicks, I'll refrain) is something like this:

Jocelyn meets a guy--yeah he's cute--they become friends, hang out, talk--he is a lot of fun to be around, definitely has "a great personality"--he asks her out, they start dating, fall in love, get married, the end.

I thought about including a "in the name of Jesus Christ, Amen" at the end, but I couldn't do it.

Well except I just did it here...awkward. 

Personality is everything!! No matter how cute the guy is, if our personalities don't work, then no bueno. There've been guys that I've liked in the past and I mainly just liked them for how attractive they were (again, slightly shallow). There was nothing in common, we rarely had anything to talk about and the attraction (always on my part) fizzled out.

I can't really think of a clever or even a good way to end this so I'm just going to go now. We'll talk later. Like tomorrow.